Do I Want to Be Happy or Do I Want to Be Right?

A portfolio career means regularly partnering with an assortment of people in different capacities. Work with enough people over time and you are bound to not care for every one of them. While we can never control how the people around us act, we can always control if and how we react to those people.

One of the wisest things I’ve ever heard came from a friend who once told me “I find it fascinating that I no longer have to attend every argument I’m invited to.” 

This simple one-liner had a profound impact on me. The bottom line is I have a choice to make in any situation: Do I want to be happy or do I want to be right?

I tend to get annoyed by people who always seem to feel the need to get in the last word in a disagreement. (Side note: This is because my ego frequently feels the need to also get in the last word!) But continuing an even slightly contentious conversation for another gratuitous back and forth never leaves me or anyone feeling better.

We have all been in an ensemble or on a project with two people who regularly choose to be right in each other's direction. Even if neither one of them ever turns that energy towards you personally, there is a good chance you won’t want to work with either of them again. You will also be far less likely to recommend them to anyone in the future.

Choosing to be happy enables you and everyone else to focus on doing the important work in front of you rather than needlessly wasting energy on managing personalities.

2022 TEM Year in Review

With 2022 in the rearview mirror I thought it would be fun to take a look at just a few stats from last year:

Top 10 Downloads by Country:

  1. United States of America

  2. Australia

  3. Canada

  4. United Kingdom

  5. Japan

  6. Singapore

  7. Germany

  8. Russia

  9. Taiwan

  10. Spain

TEM was downloaded in 81 countries which is really hard to wrap my brain around! And that includes such faraway places (relative to where I am sitting when I talk into this mic) as Zimbabwe, Peru, Malaysia and the United Arab Emirates. Again, hard to process!

Bottom line is there’s never been a more exciting time to a content creator of any kind. It is possible to get your podcast or album or TikTok video in front of people literally all over the world. That wasn’t at any time in human history until quite recently.

You just have to keep showing up over and over again!

Top 5 Most Popular Episodes in 2022:

  1. TEM246: Getting Others to Market for You Without Asking

  2. TEM248: When Is It Good Enough

  3. TEM254: Monica Ellis of Imani Winds

  4. TEM250: Eric Branner of Fons

  5. TEM247: What Procrastination Actually Is

And maybe my favorite stat of all is that every single episode in the history of TEM was downloaded in 2022 - even the ones that are over seven years old.

If you are reading this is a really good chance that you are a part of the above stats and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your attention. You are appreciated!

Here’s to an even better 2023 for your portfolio career and to TEM!